Those that I'm tagging don't have to do this. Not really. I want to make the clear as I hate non-con with a passion. laughter
♥ People who have been tagged must write their answers on their blogs & replace any question that they dislike with a new question formulated by themselves.
♥ Tag 8 people to do this quiz & those who are tagged cannot refuse. These people must state who they were tagged by & cannot tag the person whom they were tagged by. Continue this game by sending it to other people.
Tagging bloodthirstylt, r0ck3tsci3ntist, ginnyvos, ai_ici_lover, shadowgirl1605, ross_teneyck, crimini, nikita_cheri111 with the caveat that you do NOT HAVE to do it. You can refuse. *grin*
o1◢ How has LJ changed your life?
I kept an online journal for years and years, and originally came to lj because it made it easier. Then I figured out the whole friend thing, and being able to keep up with people I normally didn't really hear from but once a year or a month or whatever. Now my life's changed because I focus a great deal of my relationship energies here, and it's easier because I can read as much or a little as I like about a person. There are lots of cool people here, and I'm getting some really amazing writing relationships I don't think I could have gotten any other way.
What's changing my life is not just getting email feedback from people about my writing, which was true even when I was just writing for fun on Usenet, now I get comments that feed other people's comments and the support of actual help like beta'ing and editing and help in honing my writing. That is very cool.
I like getting networks of people that love a particular thing.
o2◢ What do you do before bedtime?
Write like mad until I'm too exhausted to think any more. Then I usually make sure I've taken my meds and rinse my mouth out. I pull my contacts, wash my face, brush my teeth, floss, thread floss under the Maryland bridge, then rinse my toothguard (fifth, I've worn through all the others) under hot water, get it in, strip and get into bed. I usually just fall asleep. If I can't, I write into a journal some more until my brain's empty and then go to sleep.
I almost never read a book before bed because I will read the entire book before being able to sleep. There have been enough times that I've seen 2 or 3 a.m. because I did not follow that rule that I now do my best to avoid it.
o3◢ What are you going to have for dinner tonight?
Steak, Annie's mac and cheese, salad with date-baselmic dressing sold at the local farmer's market, and a caramel custard for dessert.
o4◢ What is the ONE place you want to go before you die if you had the money and the time? And let's keep it to somewhere on the Earth for now, shall we?
Mainland China, probably to see my father's sister and her family and part of me wants to ask her how she could let her brother die... but the less vindictive part of me just would be bemused to see people actually related to me that wasn't my family.
o5◢ Are you an introvert or extrovert?
I'm roughly a 80% Meyers-Briggs introvert, which means that most of the time I like processing internal to my head. I don't tend to process things with other people face-to-face. Amusingly enough I process by writing things, sometimes with others, sometimes just by myself.
At a party I'm likable, easy to talk to, and I listen very well. Most people find me fun and interesting and I've been nominated to be a greeter several times; but if you're perceptive I'll usually talk about what interests you, not necessarily anything about what interests me unless you figure it out and start asking me interesting questions.
o6◢ What do you do in your free time?
Heh. Everything, anything that catches my attention. I play with my boy, learn with my boy, help my boy learn to do things on his own. I write, paint, draw, read, do all kinds of fiber arts. I give as I like. I volunteer at the local homeless shelter to feed folks, to grow veg in their garden and coordinate people to grow veg to feed the homeless. I go to Biloxi to rebuild houses. I camp, travel, think, and create. I swim, bike, but I don't run much anymore, it's too hard on the reconstructed knee. I read manga, watch anime, watch movies and TV when I want which isn't often. I mostly read sf and f, but swing out for other good stuff, too.
o7◢ Do you trust easily?
I trust. Not easily, but I've learned that it's better to trust and then deal with those consequences rather than dealing with the consequences of fearing everyone and everything. I still have difficultly trusting myself.
o8◢ What personal belonging do you have with you everywhere you go?
My bag o' stuff. Wallet, comb, crayons, fountain pens, one brush pen, index cards for catching the things that always happen, a spare grocery bag that rolls up tight, my keys, my extra AA batteries, checks, hand sanitizer, and emergency inhaler. I think the only things of that that are personal are probably the inhaler, the pens, and my clip full of index cards.
o9◢ Is there anything that has made you unhappy these days?
My pulmonary fibrosis. I shouldn't let it, though. I do what I can and my happiness is my own to make or break, really.
1o◢ What is your best quality?
After hard practice, I can find something to love in just about everything and everyone.
This is better than my old reflexes of always finding the things that I can hate or dislike or be disgusted about in everything and everyone, as the old reflexes made me very depressed. Finding the beauty in anything is an exercise in touching the divine everywhere. That's only been to my benefit.
11◢ Is being tagged fun?
It's cool to be thought of enough to be tagged. I like that.
But sometimes the amount of time and effort I spend on a meme, when I could be spending it on something else can make my brain go huh...
12◢ How do you see yourself?
I was talking with jonsinger once and I said, basically, I believe that I can do anything I really, truly want to do. I have the capacity to learn just about anything and make something of it. I see myself as fearful, but capable of going past the fear now. I see myself as a collection of strengths, now, learner, communicator, developer of others, a strategic thinker in seas of data, and as someone driven to accomplish something every day and never sit on my laurels. I see myself as a woman that's been shaped by working in a man's business. As a colored girl in a white world. As a really, really smart woman in a world that doesn't always want or like their women smart, but the world can deal. Heh.
13◢ Do you prefer rain or snow?
Rain. Always and forever rain. I can sit out in a summer rainstorm and be the happiest person in the world. There's a reason a whole group of Internet friends still call me Rain.
14◢ What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?
I think calmingeffects is very calming. She's even-handed, sweet-natured, and intelligent. I like that she's taking a courageous stand for her life against those who would belittle her. I enjoy her company and how nonjudgmental she is. I enjoy her writing. I love her Kira. I think she can use support and is willing to ask for help when she needs it. I find her excellent company.
stark_black is tender, courageous, sensual, decisive. She's forging her own path and her own way into something she really wants. She seems to be a loving mother, an old soul in a young but scarred body, and a writer that knows how to really twist and heighten emotions in ways I hadn't thought possible. I see her as a friend, solid to the core, who'd probably protect me from anything that she could.
15◢ Would you rather be single & rich or married but poor?
Hm. I was married but poor. Most young married folk start that way. The poor part doesn't always last. But when we were it was kinda fun and a good way to forge the relationship to last when we weren't poor anymore.
16◢ How many children do you want to have, if any?
One. That's all I want or need.
17◢ What's better to give or to receive?
It's easier and more powerful to give.
I'm just recently feeling the power of what it's like to receive graciously, when down in Biloxi, the folks that allowed volunteers to work in their home and let us help them out were... angels in a way. It's a hard thing to give up your pride, your knowledge of your strength, and ask for help. I am grateful for their ability to do so and let me help.
18◢ If you fall in love with two people simultaneously, who would you pick?
myJohn. *grin* I always pick him.
19◢ Would you have 100% safe sex with a stranger for $10,000,000?
No, not any more. My life isn't about money anymore, oddly enough.
2o◢ What is your life about?
I changed this one from the question about what my parents would have called me if I were a different gender as I have no clue.
I've always half believed that my life is just about here and now. Now is where all the things I ever have or ever will experience meet. Here is where all the places I have ever seen, ever been, ever discovered, ever explored all meet. And between them, they're the fulcrum where I can leverage my past in order to shape the future. And not just my future, either. Working at the OUR center and in Biloxi showed me that more clearly, recently, than I've seen it in a while.